Your Dating Questions, Answered by Dean Cortez
“Hey Dean, I’ve read all of your books (including your killer new book on getting One Night Stands) and I have a question about a girl I met a week ago at a party. I wasn’t able to do anything with her that night, besides talk to her and get her phone number, because she was the designated driver for her friends and she had to drive them all home. But I did get her number, and I’m planning to call her tomorrow to set up a date. So here’s my question. This girl is SMOKING HOT and she is leaving town in a few days to move to Los Angeles. This will probably be my only chance to hook up with you. Do you have any special tactics for a first date?”
Thanks Dean, and keep up the good work!
Mike B., New York
>>> DEAN CORTEZ ANSWERS: >>>
This is one of those dating questions that every guy wonders about at some point. We’ve all been on a first date where we felt a sense of pressure to make it happen! So look, when you’re trying to guide a woman down the path towards sex, you’ve got to eliminate her feelings of UNCERTAINTY.
Women have all kinds of reasons to NOT talk to us, to NOT give us their phone number, to NOT go on a date, and to NOT have sex with us.
They won’t tell us these reasons…but believe me, women have them. A lot of this is because they don’t feel secure with you yet.
The M.A.C.K. Tactics program teaches hundreds of ways to make women feel comfortable with you, and willing to say “yes” to whatever road you are leading her down.
So here’s a real fast tip if you want to take a woman on a date and get RESULTS the same night…
Don’t offer to pick her up. This might set off “red flags” in her mind. If she barely knows you, she might not want you to know where she lives.
This is understandable. A lot of chumps (not like you) have stalker-ish tendencies, and maybe she’s been through this with a guy before. Or maybe she knows a girl who has.
So if you got her phone number, and this is the first time you’ll be meeting her one-one-one, don’t suggest picking her up.
Here’s what you do instead: use a Mack Tactic. Tell her to meet you out in front of YOUR place. Give her your address, tell her to meet you out front at a certain time, and tell her that the two of you can “roll together” to the spot.
(The bar, coffee shop, restaurant, party, etc — wherever you plan on taking her tonight.)
She’ll go for this suggestion because of two reasons:
A) It eliminates her fear that she’s going to have to try to find the date location, and she might get lost. You’re making it easy on her by suggesting that the two of you go there together.
B) Naturally, she’s going to be curious to see where you live. You didn’t tell her that she’d be coming INSIDE your place. You only asked her to meet you out front. But still, she’ll be curious to see the exterior of your pad.
So now, here’s what you do. When she pulls up outside your place, you go outside with a smile on your face, as if you’re all ready to go on the date—and then say to her “Oh my God, I forgot I need to make an important phone call (or send an email) before we go. It will just take a minute. C’mon inside.”
So, you bring her into your place, and you let her hang out in the living room for a few minutes while you go into the other room and pretend to be taking are of some business.
And then, a few minutes later, you rejoin her in the living room and go with her on the date.
What was the purpose of this exercise? It’s actually SUPER important. You showed her the inside of your home and you let her get familiar with it.
It is no longer a strange environment to her.
There is no longer a “fear of the unknown.”
At the end of the date, when you use your techniques invite her back to your place, this doesn’t feel scary to her because she has already been inside your home, and knows that it’s comfortable and inviting.
(Note: it is critically important that your home is clean, and that your bathroom is spotless. 90% of the time, she’ll ask to use it. Have some scented candles and plush bath towels in there, to score extra points.)
This sounds like a simple Tactic, but it really works. I ALWAYS show a woman the inside of my home, just for a few minutes, before I take her out on a date. It has a subtle but very important psychological effect, which lays the groundwork for later in the evening.
Before I started using this Tactic, when I would invite a girl back to my place at the end of the night, I’d be successful around 50% of the time.
When I DO use this Tactic, girls come home with me around 90% of the time. (And when they come home with me, I know how to close the deal — it’s all in the Mack Tactics book.)
It all comes down to knowing how to eliminate a woman’s “fear of the unknown,” and ease her feelings of uncertainty.
These emotions are constantly running through a woman’s mind when she is with a guy she doesn’t feel she “knows” yet. Guys are completely different—if the girl is hot enough, we’d drive to the worst ghetto at four in the morning, in a blinding rainstorm, just to bang her!
But if you invite a woman back to YOUR place…and she has never seen it before…she might worry that it’s filthy, or that you have a weird roommate, or that it’s too far away, or whatever…there all kinds of little “red flags” popping off in her mind about why maybe going to your place is NOT a good idea.
And that’s when she’ll say, “Umm, thanks, but not tonight, I need to be up early tomorrow…”
Well, you can sidestep all of this, and set her mind at ease, when you “preface” the date by inviting her inside for a few minutes.
Then, at the end of the night, when it’s time to invite her home…it feels to her like a
MUCH safer and more comfortable scenario, because she’s already been inside.
That’s a quick tip I used last night, but I’m telling ya, it works ;)
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If you’ve got any other dating questions, just email me: deancortez (at) macktactics.com
Your Wingman,
Dean Cortez
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