Dean Answers Questions About Online Dating Sites

Dean answers:

Why feel bad about that? You should feel worst about using a online dating site in general. Look at it this way, people use online dating sites to feel better about them selves, they have no self esteem and there emotional wrecks, so they could simply reject you. Not for the mere fact they don’t like you but to use you as a ego boost or self esteem boost. I suggest you get out in the general population and just talk with woman if you get shot down you get shot down your never gonna see her again anyway.

Dean answers:

No, they are not all out for one thing!
I met my boyfriend on http://wwwsinglesnet.info
It took about a month, and he showed interest in me. I registered for a lot of different ones, and didn’t like most. This one is the best so far, and the best thing is it is free!

Dean answers:

It’s because there is an implicit idea that if you HAVE to go online to get dates that you CAN’T meet someone in the “real world.”

While it is true that there a lot of socially withdrawn people (eccentric or otherwise too shy and timid) do turn to the internet because it can be less intimidating, and it can also be more private if you choose to limit the information you put in your dating profile — ironically a lot of people (especially younger) tend to write tons of personal stuff in their public profile that the whole world can see.

In reality, I suppose there’s nothing to be embarrassed about. I made a profile on plentyoffish.com once and poked around for a few days. I found myself simply seeking out girls with the hottest profile pictures, and decided it wasn’t a good way to meet people because it only encouraged me to rely even more heavily on my natural superficial judgments.

Dean answers:

In my time, I’ve met plenty of girls online but it never seem like dating. It seemed like a hook-up for sex only. However, doing more online dating than meeting a nice woman the normal way, such as in the mall or at a cafe, will make you lose your style with approaching women. Lower your percentage of online dating and increase your confidence in approaching women.

Dean answers:

I think it’s better than picking up some pervert in a bar.
To make your profile stand out, get a picture taken by a professional, and use it as your image :P
If it’s a good picture, it’ll be taken from a flattering angle, and the colors with probably be enhanced. It’s more likely to get people to look twice.
Safety concerns should probably be worrying about if the guy is creepy or a criminal or something.
Make sure you meet people in a public, pretty busy place. And you should probably bring pepper spray, just in case.
Good luck!

Dean answers:

Talk with her is the best solution. If you do this by technical, she will be able to access them via other computers too. If she doesn’t want to join online dating herself, that would be the best solution.

Dean answers:

Heart and Hobby is an online dating site based on mutual interests, hobbies and even professions or experiences. For the most part it’s a dating site but I’m sure you can also make a few friends who share some of the same interests that you do, at the very least.

It is also a safe site, with a Date Check button right on the home page to remind you that they care about members’ safety. And they did say they will not participate in uploading any fake profiles of their own just to get you to pay. All of their members are real.

Dean answers:

The short answer is probably yes.
It depends on the individual though.
Sure pretty girls get 30+ mails from guys everyday.

A lot of guys send the same copied mail to 100+ women at once hoping they will get a few responses.
As a former online dater, i used to get a gazillion copied and pasted mails from guys.
These auto-mails never mentioned anything specific about my profile so it was ovbious that some guys were spamming random women. ( hella annoying)

i guess u should post the photos u look good urself and make ur profile interesting.
When u send a mail to someone, make sure the title is somehting catchy not hi or hello.
Good luck

Dean answers:

I used two…

Plenty of Fish: Great because it’s free. Bad because it’s free. You don’t have to pay anything, but that leads to guys searching for girls to get laid, people who don’t take it seriously, profiles that are jokes, etc. I had a profile for a couple of years, and sent out probably 30 emails or so. I had one date out of it (after a girl emailed me), and that was it.

EHarmony: I joined in October of 2010. It’s good because it asks a lot of personality questions, and matches you with similar people in your area. The downside is that it costs a decent amount… But because it does, it keeps losers who aren’t serious off of it. Another downside is that it gives you your matches, but doesn’t allow you to search for anyone. Some have complained about a lack of matches, but I received at least 5 new matches every day. I met three girls, and one of them is now my girlfriend. It’s going well, so I’m a fan of eHarmony.

Good luck.