Dean Answers Questions About Pick Up Women At Gym

What are the odds that I could pick up a married woman at the gym?

There are lots of women between 35-50 that look pretty hot. In fact, I figure a lot of them are at the gym all the time because their husbands are duds or they just don’t get along. How do I get a situation moving with one of them? Or several of them, for that matter.

Question for Women. Is it tacky to pick up on a woman while she’s at the gym working out?

How do you pick up women at a health club?

I’m 42 and married but my wife is a total dud. She’s fat and old and doesn’t try to do anything. We have two kids I don’t want to pay for 2 households, so I’d rather just have a girlfriend on the side. Another mom in the neighborhood would be convenient, assuming she is not fat, although I’d consider a younger unmarried girl as a second option.

There is a great gym just down the street about a half mile, and I joined a year ago. I go 3-5 times a week and I’m in great shape. There are all kinds of hot chicks there; old, young, middle age, married, single, pregnant, etc. But at least half of them are really pretty sexy. How do I further my situation and get some action??? I have no idea. I’m not a player at all. A few of them I chit-chat if I know them from somewhere else, but otherwise I never find a way to introduce myself to people I don’t know.

How do I go about this?

How do I approach this woman at the gym?

I have seen this young woman at the gym (around my age – young to mid 20′s). She is attractive and seems sweet however I do not know how to approach her at the gym. I don’t want it to seem like I am ogling her or staring at her or asking her out just because she is physically attractive. I also I know a lot of people (myself included) hate to have their workout interrupted. So, how should I ask this girl out? I don’t even know how to open up a conversation with her. The gym is just an awkward place (for me anyway) to pick up women. All answers will be greatly appreciated!

Why are other women so rude to me at the gym?

Ok this is a question that I would really appreciate some female perspective on. I am a married, mother of 2 young children in my late 20′s, in good shape- 5’6″ and 115 lbs. I am currently training for an upcoming marathon so I spend quite a bit of time in the gym during my training season. In the last 8 weeks I have noticed a major increase in some of the other women sneering, snickering, glaring and making downright rude comments to me. I work hard while I’m at the gym and it’s not uncommon for me to put in 10-15 miles on the treadmill and then strength train. I’m there solely to workout, train and improve my body and often have my children in the daycare at the gym, so I know it’s obvious that I’m not competition to them. I have a lot of friends and acquaintances at the gym and I’m always open to making new friends so I cannot figure out what these girls’ problems are. It’s not the same ones either, there are quite a few of then and it’s getting worse. Here’s an example: I was doing an easy 5 mile warm up before spinning and a guy got on a treadmill 2 down from me, a few minutes later a women joined him. I continued running and she walked for a few minutes and proceeded to get off. My iPod was switching songs at that moment and I heard her say to the guy “thanks for sticking me next to her” as she huffed off. I didn’t do anything to provoke that. Two weeks ago I was changing in the locker room, I was in my bra and panties and stood up to put my dress on and these 2 girls started whispering, it was only them and I in there. The one said “what” and laughed and the other one whispered into her ear and they both started laughing hysterically while giving me dirty looks on their way out and they both had some weight on me so I wouldn’t think they were judging me. So Friday I was at spinning and this girl is watching the end of our class, my instructor has me leading the high impact group and on the way out I heard her talking to this girl. She explained that she can modify it to what works for her and asked her if she would like to try it and the girl says “I don’t know”. I chimed in and said “you should try it, it’s really fun! If you do we will be with you, you won’t be alone!” she says “Whatever, I have 100 lbs on you, (total exaggeration) you have no clue!” I was in shock and just walked away. Well I do very much have a clue as I gained 70+ lbs with both of my pregnancies, so I’ve been there. I was just trying to make her comfortable, I like to help and comfort people that’s just my personality. Some of these women are so mean and these are adult women. I was walking out with one of my friends this week and never mentioned the way I’ve been getting treated. By the time we made it to the other side of the gym to pick up my kids she said “wow, you are getting some nasty looks, what is gong on?” my honest answer was “I have no idea”. Has anyone ever experienced think the reasoning behind it is? How do you desk with this w/o lowering my standards?