Dean Answers Questions About Pick Up Women At Gym

how do you do this? any help is appreciated!?

I am a regular at a gym by my house. I go there pretty much around 5-6 times a week give or take. I do weights usually and occationally I do cardio. I have my buddies at the weights area. I usually talk to them or other males there. There aren’t that many women and the usually do the thigh stuff which I don’t do.
When I go to the cardio section, there are mostly women. I am usually quiet but I get bored. Sometimes I try to start a conversation. However I don’t want to come across as I am trying to picl them up. Just friendly. My of my buddies came up to me and said this woman thought you were stuck up. She tried a conversation and I ignored her. I hinestly couldn’t remember. Maybe I had the headphones on or was trying to finish the 3 mile run. Who knows. So my question is I like to increase my “friends” network by adding women, without them thinking I am trying to pick them up. I am in my late 30′s married with kids. Also, I went to a birthday party of my daughter and 2 women there said to me ooh you work out at my gym. And clearly my wife was not comfortable. We were separated around a year ago and we worked things out. Things like this don’t help.
Why do I want to add women to my network? because there are no men at the cardio section and eventually I want to go to yoga at our gym and want to meet some women so that I know some people ( all the yoga people are women and I heard yog is good for lower back). Any way long story short any help is appreciated.
So can men and women of opposite sex be friends?

Why Do Men Follow Me?

when I stink with sweat after I got out of the gym.

Literally I just get out of the gym, and go to the grocery store, or stop at a gas station and men follow me or try to pick up on me.

Goodness gracious I stink with sweat!!! What is wrong with these guys?

I thought they like perfumed women who smelled clean?

How do I let her go? How do stop myself from checking on her?

She ended the relationship on bad terms,would always challenge me on purpose always provoke me and pick up fights,I tried to be reasonable tried to put common sense and good terms at least into the ending..like 2 mature adults in our late 20s would..but she wanted to end it on terms of hatred and rage…and I walked away,hurt and I know she is hurt too..

been very difficult to move on..but I cut off all contact with her,been like 3 months now…except!! the damn facebook!! I think I got a >>stalking<< problem..it's just so easy to log in and view her page "her profile is public/I view it without being on her friends list"..and I know what she's up to..what’s going on in her life..I can’t get myself to stop opening her page..it made me hate fb and technology all together,and I just hate that I’m still attached to her..the most I don’t open her page is like 2 days max..what do I do?..I meet other women all the time..but she’s always there in my thoughts,dreams…my life isn’t functioning correctly,I should know better and this is effecting every aspect of my life..I try hard to let go,get busy…I spend extra working hours..I go to the gym more,I date beautiful women..and I would come back to get my crack,opening her page…I know it’s sick and not healthy..I know if I find info about a new relationship of hers on that page that I’ll be hurt…I need to let go, I need to control myself..help!

Why don’t some guys ever have success with women?

This is just a question, trying to think through things. Why do you think it is that some guys never have success with women. Myself included. Guys that don’t have girlfriends til their mid to late twenties (like me, never had a girlfriend). Guys that don’t lose their virginity til later in life (I fall into this category, 26 and I’m still a virgin). It mystifies me because it seems abnormal. And before you say shit, no I’m not ugly, actually pretty decent looking. But still no women seem interested in me.

I’m trying to fix that mind you. I’m reading/watching pick up material. Hitting the gym more often (even though I’m in shape and pretty muscular). Going out with a friend of mine that’s good at picking up women. I want to lose my virginity by the end of the year, but I’ll take as long as I need to.

So yeah, why do you think guys like me exist?

I think this woman at my gym thinks I’m stalking her. What should I do?

I wasn’t going to ask this question but finally decided to after tonight. I changed the names as to not incriminate anyone in any way. This is kinda long, so if you don’t want to read anything long, don’t read.

3 days ago I was at the gym, and as I’m ready to get on the exercise bike, this woman is on an exercise machine talking to another member, Paul, and she looks in my general direction and says “Oh my God… Oh my God…” in a disgusted voice. I honestly did not think she was referring to me because I wasn’t doing anything other than adjusting the seat on the bike and getting ready to get on the bike. I figured she was talking about something else. So I thought nothing of it and worked out.

Then the next day, I arrive to the gym, and she’s on the same machine talking to the same guy, and as I pass her on the way to the men’s locker room, I hear her exclaim “right on time” in a sarcastic way. Still, I think nothing of it. When I change and come out the locker room, I’m on my cellphone talking to my dad. And I see her and her friend glance at me and mutter something. I head to the mat to stretch while still talking to my dad. And I hear her say something like “He’s not even picking anything up!” It sounded like she may have been talking about me being on the phone. For the record, yes, you can pick up cellphone signals in the gym (at least where I was) so I don’t know what she was talking about. Still, I think nothing of it because I know I have a history of being paranoid and thinking someone is talking about me when they’re not. I figured it was just a coincidence. I get on a weight machine and the whole time I hear her talking to Paul, and he’s responding to her, saying something like “I’ve seen him here for years and he seems like a nice guy. Maybe he’s just quiet.” I’m guessing they were talking about me but doing it in a way that they made it seem like they were talking about something else. Then I heard him say “Oh, so you’ve noticed a pattern, huh?” I couldn’t really hear her. Then as she’s leaving he says something to her like “You’re racking your brain over this… maybe talk to Reggie.” Reggie is the head trainer at the gym and oversees activities in that part of the gym. And she leaves. Still, I figure they can’t be talking about me.

The third day I didn’t hear her say anything but I thought I saw her glancing at me in the mirror with a disgusted look on her face once or twice. But I basically ignored her because I was just trying to focus on my workout. It’s possible something to her friend later while I was in another part of the gym, but I wouldn’t know.

And tonight, she arrives right as I’m wrapping up my workout. I do some stretching and head to the locker room. I get dressed and go to wash my hands. Reggie walks in the locker room, but not to do anything. He throws something in the trash and leaves. I thought it was odd. After done washing my hands, I leave. Reggie is talking to the woman, and the woman on the machine looks in my direction and says “Oh… Jesus Christ”. I’m very intuitive and pick up on things real well, and I’m guessing she told Reggie to go in the locker room to see what I’m doing. Anyway, there have been way too many coincidences and now after tonight, I’m about 90-95% sure that all those comments she’s made in the past 4 workouts at the gym were about me.

Now let me try to fill in the blanks to give you the whole story:

I’ve been a member of this gym since 2006. And started coming off-and-on as a guest in 2005. I remember seeing her as far back as 2005 (since I started coming there). I’ll be perfectly honest, I have stared at her a couple times. She’s a female, I’m a male, and I did “check her out” a few times. And I think she’s caught me a couple times. But that’s it. But I think that’s normal, because guys do that all the time. And I’ve caught women checking me out. I remember a woman that has stared at my crotch, and another woman that was staring at my butt as I worked out (I saw her reflection in the mirror). Not to mention stares from possibly gay men. But I am definitely not “stalking”. She seems to be in about her mid 30′s, and I’m in my mid 20′s.

At one point in 2007, I’d see her almost daily for weeks on end because our workout schedules were around the same time. In 2008 however, I’ve worked out the same time as her a total of maybe 7 times. And this year, maybe 4 or 5 times. It’s not like I see her every day.

I’m also quiet and keep to myself there, and I’m aware that this type of personality might unease people. But I go to the gym to workout, not socialize. But I do talk to a couple people. I’ve talked to both Reggie and Paul on rare occassions, and I believe that’s why Paul vouched for me when she was complaining, because he figured I was “normal”.

I’ve never had an incident with anyone at any gym. Like I said, I just keep to myself, workout for a couple hours, and leave. I’ve seen her get in an incident with someone else b
I’ve never had an incident with anyone at any gym. Like I said, I just keep to myself, workout for a couple hours, and leave. I’ve seen her get in an incident with someone else before. I remember her arguing with some woman because the woman was talking on a cellphone, and technically cellphone use is forbidden in the gym. And they had a back-and-forth exchange. She doesn’t seem like a friendly person. Sure, she socializes with Reggie & Paul, but I believe that’s because both those guys are very outgoing and social. Reggie the trainer is like some kind of ladies’ man that talks to every woman that works out there. And Paul is loud, boisterous, and talks to everyone period.

But my question is, what should I do? I tried to ignore it and just work out, but now if it continues I’m thinking about talking to Reggie. I don’t want to talk to her about it because she’s a woman and I’m not trying to get conflictive with a woman. And she’d probably be freaked out anyways. But I can’t go to a g
But I can’t go to a gym with someone saying “Oh God” and “Jesus Christ” everytime they see my face. It’s a form of harrassment. She probably doesn’t realize that I’m probably as scared of her as she is of me. Like I said, I don’t get in incidents with people at gyms. I don’t know if she’s going to try to report me, attack me, go off verbally on me, or what. In a way it makes me angry and defiant and I’ll just continue going to the gym, because I’ve done nothing wrong.
LuckySum: Thanks. Yes, I’m aware those two gym guys will have their eye on me. But Paul seemed to vouch for me because he’s seen me here for years and on the rare times he’s spoken to me, he saw I was normal. Reggie has also spoken to me and he & I are on good terms. I do believe she is very sensitive because perhaps she has really been stalked in the past. Your answer was so on point it’s as if you were there! And funny line about the masturbating in the bathroom!

I think this woman at my gym thinks I’m stalking her? What should I do?

I wasn’t going to ask this question but finally decided to after tonight. I changed the names as to not incriminate anyone in any way. This is kinda long, so if you don’t want to read anything long, don’t read.

3 days ago I was at the gym, and as I’m ready to get on the exercise bike, this woman is on an exercise machine talking to another member, Paul, and she looks in my general direction and says “Oh my God… Oh my God…” in a disgusted voice. I honestly did not think she was referring to me because I wasn’t doing anything other than adjusting the seat on the bike and getting ready to get on the bike. I figured she was talking about something else. So I thought nothing of it and worked out.

Then the next day, I arrive to the gym, and she’s on the same machine talking to the same guy, and as I pass her on the way to the men’s locker room, I hear her exclaim “right on time” in a sarcastic way. Still, I think nothing of it. When I change and come out the locker room, I’m on my cellphone talking to my dad. And I see her and her friend glance at me and mutter something. I head to the mat to stretch while still talking to my dad. And I hear her say something like “He’s not even picking anything up!” It sounded like she may have been talking about me being on the phone. For the record, yes, you can pick up cellphone signals in the gym (at least where I was) so I don’t know what she was talking about. Still, I think nothing of it because I know I have a history of being paranoid and thinking someone is talking about me when they’re not. I figured it was just a coincidence. I get on a weight machine and the whole time I hear her talking to Paul, and he’s responding to her, saying something like “I’ve seen him here for years and he seems like a nice guy. Maybe he’s just quiet.” I’m guessing they were talking about me but doing it in a way that they made it seem like they were talking about something else. Then I heard him say “Oh, so you’ve noticed a pattern, huh?” I couldn’t really hear her. Then as she’s leaving he says something to her like “You’re racking your brain over this… maybe talk to Reggie.” Reggie is the head trainer at the gym and oversees activities in that part of the gym. And she leaves. Still, I figure they can’t be talking about me.

The third day I didn’t hear her say anything but I thought I saw her glancing at me in the mirror with a disgusted look on her face once or twice. But I basically ignored her because I was just trying to focus on my workout. It’s possible something to her friend later while I was in another part of the gym, but I wouldn’t know.

And tonight, she arrives right as I’m wrapping up my workout. I do some stretching and head to the locker room. I get dressed and go to wash my hands. Reggie walks in the locker room, but not to do anything. He throws something in the trash and leaves. I thought it was odd. After done washing my hands, I leave. Reggie is talking to the woman, and the woman on the machine looks in my direction and says “Oh… Jesus Christ”. I’m very intuitive and pick up on things real well, and I’m guessing she told Reggie to go in the locker room to see what I’m doing. Anyway, there have been way too many coincidences and now after tonight, I’m about 90-95% sure that all those comments she’s made in the past 4 workouts at the gym were about me.

Now let me try to fill in the blanks to give you the whole story:

I’ve been a member of this gym since 2006. And started coming off-and-on as a guest in 2005. I remember seeing her as far back as 2005 (since I started coming there). I’ll be perfectly honest, I have stared at her a couple times. She’s a female, I’m a male, and I did “check her out” a few times. And I think she’s caught me a couple times. But that’s it. But I think that’s normal, because guys do that all the time. And I’ve caught women checking me out. I remember a woman that has stared at my crotch, and another woman that was staring at my butt as I worked out (I saw her reflection in the mirror). Not to mention stares from possibly gay men. But I am definitely not “stalking”. She seems to be in about her mid 30′s, and I’m in my mid 20′s.

At one point in 2007, I’d see her almost daily for weeks on end because our workout schedules were around the same time. In 2008 however, I’ve worked out the same time as her a total of maybe 7 times. And this year, maybe 4 or 5 times. It’s not like I see her every day.

I’m also quiet and keep to myself there, and I’m aware that this type of personality might unease people. But I go to the gym to workout, not socialize. But I do talk to a couple people. I’ve talked to both Reggie and Paul on rare occassions, and I believe that’s why Paul vouched for me when she was complaining, because he figured I was “normal”.

I’ve never had an incident with anyone at any gym. Like I said, I just keep to myself, workout for a couple hours, and leave. I’ve seen her get in an incident with someone else b
I’ve never had an incident with anyone at any gym. Like I said, I just keep to myself, workout for a couple hours, and leave. I’ve seen her get in an incident with someone else before. I remember her arguing with some woman because the woman was talking on a cellphone, and technically cellphone use is forbidden in the gym. And they had a back-and-forth exchange. She doesn’t seem like a friendly person. Sure, she socializes with Reggie & Paul, but I believe that’s because both those guys are very outgoing and social. Reggie the trainer is like some kind of ladies’ man that talks to every woman that works out there. And Paul is loud, boisterous, and talks to everyone period.

But my question is, what should I do? I tried to ignore it and just work out, but now if it continues I’m thinking about talking to Reggie. I don’t want to talk to her about it because she’s a woman and I’m not trying to get conflictive with a woman. And she’d probably be freaked out anyways. But I can’t go to a g
But I can’t go to a gym with someone saying “Oh God” and “Jesus Christ” everytime they see my face. It’s a form of harrassment. She probably doesn’t realize that I’m probably as scared of her as she is of me. Like I said, I don’t get in incidents with people at gyms. I don’t know if she’s going to try to report me, attack me, go off verbally on me, or what. In a way it makes me angry and defiant and I’ll just continue going to the gym, because I’ve done nothing wrong.
Jimmy: Reggie is a male.

Dating game hard. Where are you meant to find them?

I used to work at Woolworth’s for a little while and they said dating co-workers was prohibited. And of course dating the boss or anyone in HR was prohibited as well.

I am now an electrician and am pretty much stumped as to where I can find Women where there isn’t a policy prohibiting dating. I mean in the industry I am in it doesn’t even matter because its all Men but I am wondering where are you meant to meet Women.

You can’t meet them at work because of the regulations. I don’t want to pick Women up in bars or clubs because they will be bad quality.

I go to the gym but there are never attractive Women there.

So where did any of you find your girlfriends or boyfriends.

Twiddling my thumbs… a student in Al Ain (United arab emirates)….?

OK, i’m bored out of my skull. I’m a woman, British. A student at a local English speaking school.
I have absolutely sweet F-all to do. I have to revise bio, but i’ve been doing it for 2hrs, and i want a break.

I can’t go outside because i’ll need to dress appropriately for the UAE, and its too hot and not a really very good climate for a walk. Not very safe in some parts either.

So, i’m at home. ..
Yeah….

What is a good thing to do?
I can’t watch TV, i don’t speak arabic.
I can’t go out, ie shopping walking, gym (no women‘s gyms around)etc.
I need to order DVDs, which takes weeks, as does this damn Satellite we tried to get to pick up english speaking channels (been waiting 4months)
The internet is censored, so i can’t download films.
And i’m skint.
And i can’t cook, because the food goes off too quickly and that means i’d have to go shopping (out).
And i get really bored surfing the net.

I really can’t do anymore revision, i think my brain will explode.

Thanks xxx

In love with two Girls..Which to pick?

So about two weeks ago my ex of about 2 months and i decided to break up because she believed i cheated on her and got into a huge fight..well this is the problem i promised to change and fix everything So during two weeks i did alot of cute things and actually changed my attitude for her but about one week ago i left for the weekend to a friends beach house where this girl that i already had met and had a thing before i started going out with my ex was…

so once there we had more than a thing and had the most natural night i ever had ..well that whole thing happened and i kept seeing her and my ex sometimes in the same day i would see both..going out to eat to the club all that..
now fast forward about 1 week my ex wants to go out again i keep seeing her and the other girl is in love and i also keep seeing her and she also wants to start a relationship(that’s the problem) i don’t know what to do i like them the same even love not sure…though what i had with my ex was great and still is when we see each other but her temper is horrible she has anger issues and this other girl is great.

my ex is 22 years old im 19.. i did love her,shes about to finish college shes great and has a huge heart her only problem is her constant need to fight me about everything that doesn’t go her way and she always has to be right,now physically shes very pretty and shes at the gym everyday so u can imagine her body is great.but i feel we are in different places in are life..shes about to finish college in 3 months and im about to start college and shes been in 4 year relationships my longest lasting relationship is about 2 months and a half.

this other girl is about to turn 18 Shes cute has one of the biggest hearts..shes amazing shes looking for a long lasting relationship and i like that but so is my ex shed never hurt me though shes a loose canon just like me,physically shes probably one of better looking girls ive ever seen in person and everyone tells me how hot she is though i dont care about looks that much i mean it matters… but when you’ve been with a handful of women you also start looking for how smart and big their heart is..ive only had one gf in 2 years and i have a reputation of a man whore but with my gfs ive always been faithful and im ready to have only one girl in my life.

I dont know who to pick and i dont want to let go of them but i have to move on