Dean Answers Questions About Pick Up Women In Class

What’s a good way to pick up chicks in class ?

I’m looking for some pointers on how to approach and pick up women in class in ways that don’t expose you to the awkwardness of getting rejected and having to see them every other day for the entire semester.

In other words, I’m looking for tips on subtle and clever pickup techniques, from meet and greet all the way to dating.Please be as detailed as possible, and guys, please feel free to use your own exeriences as examples.

Why are women so susceptible to insincere pick up lines and gimmicks?

I was reading that there are classes that men take in which they learn effective pick up techniques, have coaches and all sorts of elaborate psychological tricks just to pick up and dupe women. One technique is to play on women‘s insecurities by using negative coding/remarks to strike a responsive chord. Why do you think that these techniques work? Shouldn’t the average woman be able to see beyond this psychobabble? Yet men continue to pay thousands of dollars to take these courses.

Picking up women at clubs? What to say?

Okay, so you’re going to have to read a fair bit but bear with me here.

I’m 25 (born 1985), well educated, with a University degree, and have never been unemployed for more than a few months until now. The jobs are not always all that great, but I can’t really complain, I even got to move to the UK to work here! I have also got a solid family structure, and was raised in a firmly middle-class and somewhat intellectual environment. I was taught to be my own man, stray away from addictions, respect my elders and the opposite sex, and so forth. The result, of course, is that I’m a nerd :D

To be honest. it’s not so bad. As far as geeks go, I’m pretty mild. Not the kind of person who stays in his room programming all day or playing WoW or anything. I admit I’m not the most outgoing person, and will gladly stay in my room on the Internet for hours, but I also like to take walks, go out to a pub and have a nice chat, go shopping, have a five-a-side with my mates from work, play in my band, and so forth. The only thing I’m not so big on is clubbing, mainly because I don’t like the music and am generally too self-conscious to dance (except if I’m drunk enough, in which case I become a blubbering mess but DO manage to dance :D).

However, I will not deny that my interests are generally more “intellectual” than the norm. My taste in film and music is somewhat “alternative”, I love to read and dream of becoming a writer, I participate in a couple of Internet forums, and so forth. I generally despise most of what is “trendy” at any given time, and have been labelled as a bit of a “cultural snob”, so to speak.

Physically, I’m the definition of “average”. Nothing too offending or stunning. Shortish, skinny, blind as a bat without my glasses, but generally I would grade myself a solid B. However, that’s not what most women think, as I have been labelled unattractive more than once. To be fair, though, I have also on occasion heard that I am not bad-looking, which evens things out.

And now we get into my predicament: I can’t seem to get women no matter what I do. I’ll admit to setting my standards too high and being intimidated by very good-looking or confident women, but other than that, I don’t see why I fail so badly at hookups. It may have to do with the fact that I am quite shy and a TERRIBLE flirter, coming across as awkward and lame or, at best, “teddy-bear cute”. However, most of the time, women take one look at me, think “nerd” and not even give me a chance.

Right now I am not interested in a girlfriend, as relationships are far too much trouble, too expensive, and doomed to finish eventually anyway. I’m not investing any of my time and money into something that will eventually just leave me broke, heartbroken and alone again (plus, most women are incredibly high-maintenance!) So I’m assumedly looking for hookups and one-night-stands. The problem is, as stated, that I seldom go to clubs, hardly ever dance and NEVER know how to open a conversation with a woman.

And this is the main focus of this question: how do you approach a woman at the club when you’re not good-looking? I always want to do it, but never know what to say and always think they will not pick me over the thousands of better options they have all around them. I mean, if you can have any hunk you want, why pick the scrawny nerd, right? I’ve heard that “Hi” is the best opener (either that or just go dance with them), but I believe I am not good looking enough for either, and that they will therefore only warrant me a slap (or at best, a cold shoulder).

So, party girls, what do you like to hear from a not-so-hot guy? And chat-up artists, what do you say when you want to approach a girl? Please refrain from “have confidence” and “just be yourself”, as I have tried and failed at them. “Being myself” is what has me asking this in the first place. Also, don’t give me tips about being an asshole to women, because although I know they like that, I can’t be one and I can’t fake being one. I was raised around women and tend to naturally respect them as human beings, even when I try not to (that sounded bad!)

Anyway, any advice would be much appreciated. And sorry you had to plow through my life story, but I felt I had to give you a little context. Please help, I’m becoming desperate!

Thanks.

Help !!! I need help finding a movie/scene when a man is picking up a women?

Ok like the title says I need help find a movie scene for my college communications class. The movie scene need to show a man making eye contact with a women, then he approaches her. Or a scene where a women is surrounded by alot of men but, is focused on one man, then he approaches her.
Any help will be greatly appreciated.
Thank you in advance.