How To Pick Up Women At Bars

Before we talk about the specific of picking up girls, let’s start at the beginning and focus on the importance of looking your best. Let me give you some quick advice to help you look and feel your best just in time for your next romp.

Work Out

Visiting the gym a few times during the week will take the edge off better than any kind of drink or drug you could dream of poisoning yourself with, and it’s good for you. Being a regular at the gym will result in you looking and feeling better, and consequently you’ll be more attractive to women.

Dress Better

The truth is, when you pay attention to how you look and women get the signal that you’re a guy who has significant value. Contrary to popular belief, girls are not in perpetual pursuit of their next makeover project. Wondering what type of clothes you should pick out for yourself? All you need to do is hit the department store at your local mall, and get advice from the cutest salesgirl. She’s there to help…and hey, striking up a conversation with a sexy salesgirl is never a bad idea..

Wash Properly

Most guys have a “hygiene regimen” that simply consists of a quick shower and then slapping on some deodorant and splashing cologne all over themselves. Those two work best in conjunction with an actual shower, so be sure to take one.

The Importance Of Location

If you are heading out for the evening to a nightclub or bar, make sure you score some good “real estate” for yoruself. Depending on the venue (and how crowded it is), this could mean getting a seat at the bar, or a table in the middle of the action. Having a place to sit (and host the gals you’ll be macking on this evening) is a huge asset.

Between your attempts to pique the interest of the woman with the disproportionately large breasts, or after a stinging rejection at the hands of that impenetrable part-time model, this piece of property will always be safe, reliable and populated with familiar faces. The REAL players are all sitting down and looking comfortable and relaxed — not standing around watching everyone else have a good time.

Now that you’ve “planted your flag”, you need to get a feel for your surroundings by doing a few laps around the venue. Pay careful attention to the body language of the women who catch your eye. (For a full explanation on how to “read” female body language, read the Mack Tactics e-book.)

I’ve always found that a moderate amount of booze can add an extra layer of confidence to my game, take your vocabulary to seemingly amazing new heights and put your joke-telling abilities on a level remiscient of famous joke-tellers such as Dane Cook and Patton Oswalt. However, when you go “over the line” with your alcohol consumption, as in paying homage to Motley Crue’s hard-drinking glory days, will have a markedly different effect. Your inner turmoil will come pouring out like Niagara Falls and your “clever” lines will be decreased to a drunken blather, so practice graceful inebriation.

Put In The Work

Regardless of whether your objective tonight is a set of numerals, a personal tour of her apartment or plunging into a serious relationship, you’re going to need to put forth the necessary effort. The other option is another evening on your own tracking down your ex-girlfriends on Facebook. Now, get off your duff and start punching the clock.

When you see a girl you’re interested in, wait for the right moment — like her standing at the bar next to you or taking leave of her 18 friends for two valuable minutes — to seize it and tell her. This method is sink or swim, but at least you’ll know where you stand without wasting time trying to gauge the probability of her ending up on all fours.

When she is within earshot and can hear what you’re saying, you can make a comment about the environment…her cool necklace or tattoo…or some dorky-looking dude at the other end of the car who’s been checking her out. Whatever yoru comment is based on, just make sure she understands what you are referring to.

While you’re at it, dispense with all the flash and half-truths nightlife is notorious for. There is really no need for you to mislead her about the car you REALLY drive or embellish the amount of money you make (which women see as a sign that you’re trying to compensate for something else you lack — i.e. penis size). Honesty might open more doors (and legs) than you think and also sends a subtle, yet discernible message that you are confident enough to not have to embellish.

Be A Man Of Mystery

Women are intrigued by a man with mystique. The key to being mysterious is not telling women all about yourself. Don’t introduce yourself by name right away. Open her, use some of the conversational techniques in the Mack Tactics guide, and jack up her interest and curiosity before you tell her your name. Keep her guessing — if she asks you what you do for a living, blow it off with a joke. (“I’m a lion tamer.” “I’m an ass model.” “I’m a professional gigolo.” Etc.) Then direct the spotlight back to her by asking her a question. You can reveal personal details about yourself in small doses. Save some for the first date, too…never let her think she has you TOTALLY figured out.

Furthermore, you don’t want to spend the entire night with her. It’s important to frame yourself as the “prize” she wants to WIN, and one way to do this is to step away and go do other things. Socialize with other people. Maybe even introduce yourself to another woman (to introduce some jealousy!). When she perceives you to be a challenge, she’s going to want you even more.

A Final Word Of Advice: It’s Up To YOU To Make It Happen!

Willpower and persistence aren’t enough to compel a woman to fork over her phone number, or drop her panties. The bottom line is, it’s up to you to make things happen and lead her down the right path. In bar and club environments, women expect YOU to approach and initiate the conversation. The above strategies only work in tandem with a measure of brazenness, so remember to check your timidity along with your coat.

You aren’t going to score with a hottie every time. Occasionally, even the best pickup artist winds up at a late-night diner wolfing down cheeseburgers with his buddies.Keeping your expectations in check, your skin thick and your sense of humor robust will help you get the most out of this game.