How To Elevate Your Conversations With Girls

So here’s the bottom line: If you can’t carry on a cool conversation that moves things in the right direction, you won’t ever be super successful with women. The good news is… with consistent effort and practice, you can master this skill. Don’t worry if you don’t have a natural “gift of gab.” With consistent effort and practice over time, you can get better results with women than your silver-tongued brethren. Once you develop the core skills that I’m about to explain, you’ll be ready to strike up a conversation with a girl in virtually any situation.

One of the most important things to keep in mind when you talk to women is that you want to seem ORIGINAL. You shouldn’t ask the same questions or use any of the same “lines” that she’s heard from all the other guys. She’ll be thinking to herself: “I wonder what he’s gonna say next?” This keeps her guessing, and wards off the biggest enemy and attraction-killer for a woman: Boredom. You may not be “The Most Interesting Man In The World” from the Dos Equis commercials, but you’ll be a lot more interesting than most guys who don’t practice these conversation keys.

Five Rules For Talking To Girls

Let’s get started – here are five of my favorite ways to keep a conversation moving in the right direction:

1. Ask her questions that are non-threatening and genuine

Most women are wary of PUA games, tactics or weird language from guys. If you try any of these tricks and they aren’t congruent with your personality, at the best you’re probably off to a bad start – and at the worst, she’s mentally blown you off. The best way to set yourself apart from other guys is to ask authentic questions… without an agenda or hidden motive. Also keep in mind that a woman needs to feel comfortable with you, in order for her to feel a connection. (And if you’re obviously not comfortable in your own skin…and confident in yourself…there’s no way she’s going to feel comfortable with the conversation.) I would suggest that instead of trying to rely on lines or routines that you memorized in a book, show confidence by asking genuine questions and sharing genuine opinions.

2. Observe and be perceptive

When you get in the habit of paying attention to your surroundings – people, places and things – you’ll almost never run out of things to say. It’s a rare man who actually does this, and it’s a very attractive trait to women. Just make sure whatever you say is accurate and genuine, and you don’t have an agenda behind it. Women have built-in, finely-tuned BS detectors, and if she feels you’re not being truthful with her (or you’re saying something just to get her into bed)… it’s game over, and you’re done.

3. Keep it light (never let her see you sweat)

Most women spend a lot of time worrying about any number of topics. A guy who can keep her mind off the worries of the world is someone she’ll want to spend more time with. Big-screen badasses like Clint Eastwood, Sylvester Stallone or John Wayne never looked worried, and were able to handle whatever situations that came up. They also used a dose of humor now and then to show they were firmly in control. (James Bond, no matter which actors was portraying him, is another great example). A woman will follow your social lead, based on how you come across and make her feel. By being cool, calm and relaxed at all times, and using humor (especially when things aren’t going according to plan, such as trying to talk to a girl in a loud, crowded nightclub), you’ll make her feel safe in your presence, and this is one of the prerequisites for making any woman feel attraction.

4. Be an active listener

Observe the interactions between guys and girls the next time you’re hanging out in a bar or club. You’ll notice that in most cases, the guy does most of the talking — usually in an effort to impress her. But the conversation game isn’t won by being the smoothest talker, or trying to “earn points” by bragging about who you know, the car you drive, the money you make, etc. It’s also about being an attentive listener. Being a great listener might not come naturally to you, especially if you’re an outgoing guy with a good sense of humor, who is used to being the center of attention when you’re hanging out with your buddies. Even if you have to bite your tongue waiting for someone to finish their thought or ideas, do it. One of the rules of human behavior is that people appreciate it when other people LISTEN to them, and this is especially true with women, who really appreciate a guy who seems interested in what they have to say. When you practice being an active listener, you’ll become more relaxed in all social situations.

5. Stay in the moment and always be “present” (not distracted)

Men have a tendency to let their thoughts drift in a million different directions, rather than focusing on what’s right in front of them — in this case, a woman you want to connect with. If you’re the type of guy who gets anxious or tongue-tied around hot girls, you might allow your thoughts to drift all over the place (“Does this girl like me?” “What if she has a boyfriend?” “Do I sound like a total dork?” Etc.). This mental chatter prevents you from being truly focused on the person or conversation at hand. For women it’s called being “present,” and it’s absolutely HUGE.

Stay focused on her and make a conscious effort to eliminate the mental chatter going on inside your head. You must stay fully engaged in the present moment, contributing to the conversation in a genuine way, sharing your thoughts, and acknowledging what she has to say. Don’t behave like most guys do — nodding your head like a brainless “bobble head” doll and simply saying “uh-huh” or “yeah, totally” once in a while. You’re not fooling women when you take this lazy, distracted approach to the conversation. You’ll appear lazy or apathetic, and she definitely won’t think you’re a badass.

Mastering the art of conversation will yield benefits beyond scoring with women. These skills are also essential for forging business relationships and making progress with your other goals. It’s the social equivalent of hitting a million-dollar jackpot in Vegas.

Conversation is just one of the skills needed to be a badass with women. I don’t want you to spend years flailing around “in the wilderness” trying to apply these tactics without proper guidance. What you need is a thorough, comprehensive game plan which will help you go from the opening conversation, all the way to a successful seduction. In the long run, improving your overall level of confidence, and your lifestyle, will attract far more women than memorizing a few clever or sneaky “routines” to make a woman drop her guard. I do believe in good, solid information that can help you become the rare man who can attract – and keep – a quality woman in your life.

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