How To Talk To Women – Conversation Secrets

Dudes are always coming to me for pointers on how to talk to women. Specifically, they want to know what kind of language “turns women on.” I always tell these folks, before you learn the perfect words to pick up girls and figure out what to talk about with a girl, you need to be aware of the words and language to avoid.

For example, one of the worst things you can do when talking to women is come off as a “needy” guy. Most men don’t realize that they are coming across “needy” when talking to a woman. But the women picks up on it quickly. It’s obvious to women when you are trying to impress them. And when a guy attempts to impress a girl during that first conversation, it has the opposite effect: it causes her to lose interest.

How To Talk To Women

Coming across as an insecure guy is extremely unattractive. You can’t talk to women and seem like a nervous wreck and expect her to feel attraction towards you. A woman expects a man to be powerful, confident, and secure with himself. If she senses that you don’t possess those traits she will quickly lose attraction towards you.

Guys who come across as BORING are also a major turn-off to women. If you’re talking a woman you need to know how to keep the conversation fun. If you find yourself struggling to fill awkward silences, asking her boring and predictable “interview” questions (“So where are you from?” “What do you do for fun?” etc), it’s a safe bet that the girl you’re talking to is going to tune out pretty quickly.

Here’s another way that guys screw up when they talk to women: they don’t display any social intelligence. You’re probably wondering what “social intelligence” means, so let me explain. Women are social creatures. They go along with the “social norms.” One of the fastest ways to make a girl think you are “below” her is to seem like you have no idea what is cool or socially acceptable. Guys display a lack of social intelligence when they make stupid or inappropriate comments, fail to read the “signals” the girl is sending him, or when they keep cracking jokes that no one (except for him) finds entertaining.

Look, when you consider the endless options that a pretty girl has — and how much attention she receives from men — you can’t blame these chicks for not wanting to waste their time with a guy who is insecure, weak, needy, boring or just plain clueless. Ask yourself… do you find these sort of women attractive?

OK, now that we’ve covered the type of talk (and men) that turn women off, let’s move on and discuss…

What type of talk turns women on?

You have to know how to talk to women in a way that brings out her fun, flirty, and playful side. There is a song “Girls Just Want to Have Fun…” and the song is correct. This holds true in any environment where women are hanging out socializing (bars, clubs, parties, etc). More than anything else, she’s there to have a good time. It’s your job to flirt with her and “push her buttons” in a way that makes her feel like she is back on the playground, being teased and playing around with her childhood crush.

Women are creatures of emotions. When you talk to women, you need to be aware of their emotional state — and the state you want to PUT them in. Talk about topics that evoke an emotional response from her, and cause her to experience emotional memories. Don’t focus on anything sad or morose. I’m referring to topics such as her passions, hidden talents, the best vacation she ever went on, etc.

Next, you want to display to her that you’re a socially intelligent guy. Women are insanely turned on by men they believe have power, status, and social approval. The good news is that you really don’t need to have power, status, etc. You just have to talk to a woman in the same way that these sort of men would talk to her. You have to talk to her from a place of power, status, and SLIGHT superiority. Girls are instinctively attracted to men they feel are slightly above them on the social ladder.

==>For a CHEAT SHEET of lines to say, click here.

Next, you must talk to women in a way that brings out the “sexy side” of their personality. The fact is, you can be having the greatest conversation in the world about a topic like “health food” but it will rarely lead to attraction. To move out of the realm of “friendly conversation” and take it to a deeper, more intimate level, you’ll have to talk to her about more personal topics. I’m not suggesting that you talk to her about sex, but you can explore some more intimate areas with her. The right topics will create a sense of “deep rapport” (where she feels bonded to you), and when that happens, it’s easy to move into the seduction phase.

Very few guys understand the dynamics of how to talk to women in a way that creates powerful interest and attraction. Most guys just wind up boring women.

I have coached enough men to know that most of them will freeze up in front of a beautiful woman. And if they don’t completely freeze up, they try to talk to her — but come across as needy, boring and insecure, which is a lethal combination.

Women expect a man to be able to LEAD a conversation in a fun, flirty, and sexy way. She wants you to be able to make her laugh, smile, and feel safe and secure around you.

==>For a CHEAT SHEET of lines to say, click here.

In brief, the key to attracting a woman is to talk to her in a way that makes her feel fun, enjoyment and a sense of excitement when she’s around you — while slowly letting the sexual tension build. At that point, it’s about escalating (verbally AND physically) and knowing the right moment to give her the first kiss…

Want To Learn How To Take The Conversation All The Way To The Bedroom?

Click Here To Download The FREE Mack Tactics “Black Book”.

Copyright 2011 – How To Talk To Women

Incoming search terms:

• how to talk to a woman on a dating site (1)
• how to talk to girls on a dating website (1)
• how to talk with girls a dating website (1)
• website reviews how to talk to women (1)