Tips To Help You Talk To Girls

When it comes to meeting girls, one of the biggest obstacles that guys face is not understanding how to lead the conversation and move it forward.

This is the bottom line: If you can’t keep a conversation going, you can’t be super successful with women. But if your conversation skills are lacking, don’t worry – I can give you a few powerful tactics to help you out, and with some practice, you can become a master of conversing with girls. While some lucky dudes are naturally blessed with the “gift of gab,” other guys (like myself) were able to learn how to talk to girls effectively.

With consistent effort and practice over time, you can get better results with women than your silver-tongued brethren. That’s because you’ve developed a core foundation of skills for any situation you’ll encounter.

If you have multiple ways to sustain a conversation, it creates more curiosity in the mind of a woman. When you use these methods of “creative conversation,” she’ll never know what you’re going to say next – and this stimulates her curosity and interest in you. This keeps her guessing, and wards off the biggest “attraction destroyer” for a woman: Boredom.

You may not be “The Most Interesting Man In The World” from the Dos Equis commercials, but you’ll be a lot more interesting than most guys who don’t practice these conversation keys.

Five Rules For Talking To Girls

Let’s get started – here are five of my favorite ways to keep a conversation going:

1. Observe and be perceptive

When you get in the habit of paying attention to your surroundings – people, places and things – you’ll almost never run out of things to say. This can spark attraction in a woman, when she feels that you’re confident enough to lead the conversation and you’re tuned into your surroundings. Just make sure whatever you say is accurate and genuine, and you don’t have an agenda behind it. Women have built-in, finely-tuned BS detectors, and if she feels you’re not being truthful with her (or you’re saying something just to get her into bed)… it’s game over, and you’re done.

2. Ask genuine, non-threatening questions

If you’re been studying PUA (Pick Up Artist) routines and language, there’s a good chance that the girl you’re talking to has encountered this stuff before. PUA routines have gone mainstream, and in bars and clubs around the world these routines are being overused. If you try any of these tricks and they aren’t congruent with your personality, at the best you’re probably off to a bad start – and at the worst, she’s mentally blown you off. The best way to set yourself apart from other guys is to ask authentic questions… without an agenda or hidden motive. Also keep in mind that a woman needs to feel comfortable with you, in order for her to feel a connection. (And if you’re obviously not comfortable in your own skin…and confident in yourself…there’s no way she’s going to feel comfortable with the conversation.)

True “players” don’t rely on canned lines, they have the confidence to express genuine opinions and questions.

3. Listen actively (being a good listener can be even MORE important than knowing what to say next)

Observe the interactions between guys and girls the next time you’re hanging out in a bar or club. You’ll notice that in most cases, the guy does most of the talking — usually in an effort to impress her. But the conversation game isn’t won by being the smoothest talker, or trying to “earn points” by bragging about who you know, the car you drive, the money you make, etc. It’s also about being an attentive listener. This may not come easily or naturally to you at first – especially if you’re an extrovert, or are nervous in social situations. You might need to start biting your tongue and holding back, in order to let her do more of the talking. People like other people who let them talk, and women will respect and appreciate you more. When you practice being an active listener, you’ll become more relaxed in all social situations.

4. Don’t let her see you sweat, keep it light

Women generally worry about small things more than men do. At any given time, you can assume that a girl has at least one thing on her mind that is causing her stress. A guy who can keep her mind off the worries of the world is someone she’ll want to spend more time with. Think of Hollywood icons such as Sylvester Stallone, George Clooney, Russell Crowe, Clint Eastwood, or John Wayne — these guys never seemed worried or anxious, and were able to handle any situation that arose. And they added an occasional dose of good humor to show they were in control. When you radiate this type of confidence and control, women are going to want to follow your lead because you make them feel safe. Women like being around guys who make them feel safe and secure – and you can do this by staying calm, cool and relaxed.

5. Stay “present” and in the moment

Men have a tendency to let their thoughts drift in a million different directions, rather than focusing on what’s right in front of them — in this case, a woman you want to connect with. If you’re the type of guy who gets anxious or tongue-tied around hot girls, you might allow your thoughts to drift all over the place (“Does this girl like me?” “What if she has a boyfriend?” “Do I sound like a total dork?” Etc.). When this happens, and you allow your own “mental traffic” to distract you, you won’t be focused on the present moment. For women it’s called being “present,” and it’s absolutely HUGE.

Stay focused on her and make a conscious effort to eliminate the mental chatter going on inside your head. You must stay fully engaged in the present moment, contributing to the conversation in a genuine way, sharing your thoughts, and acknowledging what she has to say. Don’t behave like most guys do — nodding your head like a brainless “bobble head” doll and simply saying “uh-huh” or “yeah, totally” once in a while. You’re not fooling women when you take this lazy, distracted approach to the conversation. You’ll appear lazy or apathetic, and she definitely won’t think you’re a badass.

Mastering the art of conversation will yield benefits beyond scoring with women. These skills are also essential for forging business relationships and making progress with your other goals. Everyone loves to be listened to and appreciated, whether it’s a babe you meet at the bar, or the guy sitting across the desk from you, interviewing you for a job.

Conversation is just one of the skills needed to be a badass with women. I don’t want you to spend years flailing around “in the wilderness” trying to apply these tactics without proper guidance. Don’t try and “re-invent the wheel” when it comes to your social life. And I’m not a believer in PUA routines or trying to use sneaky, manipulative tricks to attract women, since this stuff rarely works in the long run. I’m sure your goal is to meet QUALITY women — not girls who are easily tricked or deceived into sleeping with you.

Extra Tips To Help You Attract More Girls…

The mysteries behind successfully getting the girl find their roots in the skills and tricks for doing so. If you want to be in on these mysteries, you have to actively know the ways and practice them. You can actually get pointers from the experienced pick up artists who know their way around girls. If you already noticed, the great pick up artists arm themselves with interesting pick up lines, the necessary attitude, and lots of confidence to seal the deal.

Before you even put one foot in front of the other to approach the girl you like, you first have to check yourself. Do you look presentable – with trendy clothes that show you as a fashion-forward guy, not a fashion victim? Do you make it a point to dress appropriately for the place? Do you wear clean clothes that show you as a decent and well-mannered guy? These are questions that need resounding yeses as positive answers to the questions can greatly help you get the girl.

The second step in getting the girl needs you to pay attention to your attitude or way of carrying yourself. For this one, you need to get the message across that you are an authority in the social scene and thus are a man of importance. You have to instill in the observers’ minds that you are an important part of the circle and are a well respected one. So, walk confidently with your head held high, keep your hands relaxed, and keep eye contact with the girl, but don’t act arrogant. These things can help you make the girl give you a second glance.

Another thing you have to consider in getting the girl needs you to equip yourself with social proof. Social proof tells the girl that you are indeed part of a circle of friends and that you are considered as a valuable part. When the girl notices you moving with our friends in your own circle, she will see your worth as a person she should give some time to and a person worth talking to. Also, it is important to acquire more friends as many friends, from both sexes, can attest to your friendliness and your sociability. Remember, social proof is a good way to get a girl to notice you.

The last step you need to take in getting the girl requires that you use a catchy pick up line to grab her interest. In this case, you have to choose from a wide array of effective openers to make her pay you some attention. You can pick from the following themes: naughty, funny, sweet, corny, and many more. It is best that you pick a line from each theme and keep them ready just in case you even find yourself in a tight spot. In this sense, you have to pick the right opener to fit a particular situation. Also, make sure to utter the pick up line with enough confidence and self-assurance to give the opener a certain impact which will have a positive effect on the girl you are speaking to.

In summary, the tricks in getting girls to notice you are not so mysterious. There are no tried and tested pick up lines that give hundred percent success. You really have to do concrete things to get the job done. You have to dress to go with the latest fashion; carry yourself in a self-assured manner; and have lots and lots of friends. All these things plus an interesting pick up line can help you achieve amazing results with girls.

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